Mom Must-Haves, Uncategorized

Mom Must Have: Daisy May Candle Co.

HELLO!!!  It’s been too long, feathered friends.  Between sick kids, teething kids, snow/ice days, sleep regression, and everything else my writing has definitely taken a back seat.  However, I’m making a goal to do a product rave/review once a week.  It’s not the introspective, raw writing that I typically lean toward, but I think it’ll be something new and fun…and maybe associating writing with something less heavy would be a helpful approach to getting me back into the swing of things.

So.  Onward we go!

(Literally as I wrote that:  Pause…baby’s crying.)

(An hour later…)

Daisy May Candle Co.
(with special guest Pink Zebra)

Product:  Daisy May Candle Co. (Hand-poured soy wax melts)

Scents Available:  *The ones I’ve tried are in bold italics*
Honeysuckle Jasmine
Clary Sage
Sweet Orange Cream
Eucalyptus + Peppermint
Fresh Lemon
Lavender Cucumber Sage
Antique Sandalwood (with Orange, Frankincense, & Bergamot)
White Birch
Very Vanilla
Clean Cotton
Amber + Vanilla Wax Melts (with Sandalwood, Musk, & Cedarwood)
Black Raspberry + Vanilla
English Garden
Red Ginger + Saffron
Tea Tree + Lemon
*Note:  I purchased English Garden for Valentine’s Day gifts, but I haven’t personally melted them.  They smelled wonderful in the packaging, though!

Feedback:  When I saw this product during my Facebook scroll, I had to give it a try.  A local business of so many of my favorite things?  Yes, please!  I’ve placed two orders so far…one in January…another in February…and I’ll be ordering again in March.  (Until March 9th, you can use this code to buy 2 get 1 free: B2G1FREE.)  I’ve been pleasantly surprised by not only the strength of the scents, but the duration of the scents.  My house is chock-full of large animals, grown kids, a busy toddler, and an adorable baby– all of that fun makes for interesting smells from time to time.  If I’m honest, I’ve struggled to find a product that smells great and is able to fill our main level for any period of time because of the aforementioned reasons and our vaulted ceilings.  Most products would smell amazing, but only in the kitchen (or wherever the warmer is)…and only for a few hours.  My experience with these has been different.  I typically put two cubes in my Pink Zebra Simmering Light (I’ll say more about product this momentarily) and don’t switch them for at least 48 hours.
My absolute favorite is Very Vanilla.  It is VERY AMAZING.  In fact, I’ve had it melting all this morning, and I can smell it alllllll the way in our bedroom.  (I’ll include a picture of the layout of our house so you can see why it’s exciting that I can smell it up here.)

One of the things that I like most about Very Vanilla is its ability to pair with other scents.  For example, one of my favorite combinations is Very Vanilla and Sweet Orange Cream.  (OMG heavenly.)
My least favorite that I’ve tried so far would be Clean Cotton…and not because it doesn’t smell fabulous…but because I didn’t feel like the scent was strong enough to cover all of the other scents in our home.  It would be a wonderful option for a family that has a warmer in a smaller area, likes lighter scents, or doesn’t have so many other scents to mask.
I’ve also mixed these scents with Pink Zebra Sprinkles…which sounds weird to give a shout out to another product in the middle of another review, but you guys want an honest review…right?  Where Pink Zebra has so many amazing scents, they don’t fill my home the way Daisy May Candle Co. does.  BUT, Daisy May gives the Pink Zebra the extra oomph it needs to smell stronger, longer.  A scoop of Black Cherry Sprinkles and a cube of Very Vanilla from DMCC…or a scoop of Meditation Sprinkles and a cube of Eucalyptus + Peppermint DMCC…it really works together well.
img_1923On the topic of Pink Zebra, I use a Simmering Light ($28 for a basic)…which uses a lower temperature bulb so scents last longer.  I’m sure most melting pots or warmers say something along those lines…but I really do love what I use.  And, honestly, one of the determining factors prior to purchase was that you’re able to purchase different shades ($15-18…there are a few really fancy ones for more) to use on the same base.  My white shade looks fabulous everywhere…but if I want a pop of color, I can just order a new shade without having to order a whole new thing…which is pretty cool.
ANYWAY, back to Daisy May Candle Co– I’ve reached out to the owner several times with questions.  Her response time has always been within the hour…and she’s been so helpful in deciding which scents would work best for my needs.  Plus, she’s full of new ideas and seems to be trying out those ideas often.  For example, she gave me the inside scoop on brand new lotion bars (with essential oils) that are in the works…AND an online craft show that she’s organizing through Etsy with over 30 shops interested in participating in an online craft show that has the feeling of a local craft fair with freebies and drawings and freebies and featured shops and F-R-E-E-B-I-E-S.  It’ll be called Fresh Air Marketplace and will hopefully be ready for action mid-April.  So be sure to keep your eye out on the Daisy May Candle Co. Facebook page, Instagram, Twitter, etc. for updates on that.

Alright, I think the only thing I have completely failed to mention so far is the price.  Each scent is $4.99 and comes with 6 cubes per container…however, I’ve not yet paid full price for an order…which is just another reason to follow DMCC on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. for those discount codes.  Also, shipping is FREE (no international orders) and my packages have all arrived within 3 days.


And there you have it!  My house smells great, despite all the craziness we have in here…and I’m thankful for great products to help me out, because it doesn’t matter how much I clean, there will still be smells.  At least now the smells are fabulous.

Until next time,

To order Daisy May Candle Co products, click here!
To order Pink Zebra products, click here!

Fearless Faith

And through the brokenness, God had a plan for us…

Today is a day of emotion and heartache. I hate that it’s been a month since I last posted… but today I am desperate for the writing therapy and I’m jumping right in.

Two years ago today I lost my dad in a car accident. He was 57 years old. He was leaving our house and headed home after a Friday evening spent with family.  I will forever remember him leaving our house that night. “Remind me tomorrow when you’re out to get the Kreg Jig out for you. Love you. See you tomorrow.”

For months I cried myself to sleep…. cried out to Jesus… buried myself in my bible. I cried in the shower when I felt guilty about making my husband pick up my broken pieces. I cried in the bathroom stall at work as silently as I could.  I cried every time I was in the car driving by myself.  I even remember crying while walking out of a grocery store because the clerk asked me “how are you today?” and it took everything I had in me to put a grin on my face and say “fine”.  It’s a crazy limbo of wanting everyone to know that you are absent because you’ve lost a piece of you and not wanting to talk to anyone because it hurts to talk about it.  I have never been so broken.  I prayed daily… throughout the day… in meetings… while driving… while laying in bed awake all night. I have never been so reliant on God to heal me… to take away the pain… to make me whole again.  Could that ever happen? Would I ever feel normal?

And through the brokenness God had a plan for us…

After the loss of my dad we truly recognized how little time we have on Earth and we were committed to making the best of all the time we had left.  We stopped pushing off goals and decided to make them happen.  We decided there was no reason to wait to have a baby… our lives are too short… let’s just do this.

I was pregnant 3 weeks after our decision to try for a baby.  Wow! Not what we expected.  My doctor said to expect at least 6 months.  Then 8 weeks later I went to my first doctor’s appointment.  My doctor excitedly announced “Oh! There’s two in there”.  That’s right, TWINS.

Our world changed… our prayers changed. And I realized what God was doing for us.


In all of my pain and brokenness I turned to Jesus.  I remained hopeful that life would someday be good again.  And even though it was easy to ask “why?” it was never easy for me to blame God for the tragedy that turned our lives upside-down.  He took our heartache and blessed us with two… He helped us mend our broken hearts by filling them with more love.

The twins were born 6 days after my dad’s first birthday in heaven. Everyday, I look at our twins and praise God for the love and fullness it has brought to my life.  And while I desperately want my children to have their Pawpaw in their lives, something tells me they’ve already met.

Grief is a strange thing.  It comes in waves.  Sometimes they are little gentle waves that brush upon your toes.  And other times, they are unbearable waves that knock you down and swirl you around in the undertow.  Grief is never something that is “healed”… it is something you bear… sometimes easy… sometimes debilitating. The truth is, I’ve never gone back to feeling “normal” in the way that normal felt at the time of his passing. There’s a new normal… and honestly I carry guilt with me all the time when the new normal feels okay.

But as a stay-at-home mom to Pawpaw’s favorite little twins, I have never felt so fulfilled… so alive in Christ… so grateful for the blessings we have.


I know this one was heavy. But thanks for being my therapy on an emotional roller coaster day.

Mom Must-Haves

Life hack: Non-Slip Toddler Booties

My 13 month old toddlers will NOT keep socks on. They pull them off by the toes of the socks and just giggle. It’s been so cold here and I hate them having bare toes, especially on our tiled kitchen floor. 

I bought some booties off of Amazon…. because I buy everything on Amazon. At the time that I purchased them the description said they had a non-slip sole. But the striped version that I bought didn’t have the non-slip bottoms. I complained in a review and they’ve since changed the description. I considered sending them back but they’re just too stinking cute. I came across a “life hack” option to use fabric paint on the bottom of toddler socks to add a non-slip texture. A lightbulb went off… the adorable booties can be saved!!! 

I had some 3D fabric paint on hand that I used for our Christmas stockings, so I thought I’d give it a whirl. The fabric paint cake from Hobby Lobby and I paid $1.29 for 1 fl. oz.  

Happy Homesteading

Winter Egg Hunting

Just before it started to get cold, a friend gave me 6 hens.  Her mother was moving out of state and couldn’t take her beloved chickens with her so I agreed to take them.  Weeks passed and I was convinced that they were duds… old hens that were too old to lay, too old to sell, and too old to eat.  I was disappointed because I had approximately 57 egg cartons I was so eager to fill with eggs…. and twins that will go through 4 eggs a day if I let them.  In 3 months, my 6 old birds had yielded 3 eggs total.

A few months later, I got 5 more hens and 2 roosters.  They were 6 weeks old when I got them. We made arrangements to keep them separate from the old birds but still in the same barn. 

Within 2 weeks of having our new chickens, our old birds began laying.  I’ve been getting 3-4 eggs per day… and the best part is I get to go hunting for them each day because I have one or two hens that lay in the most peculiar places – between wall studs, behind boards, and behind feed barrels.  

Here’s what I think made a difference in their egg productivity:

  • Roosters: even though they are young fellas, I think the old gals were inspired by the handsome youngins.
  • Heat Lamps: In the corner of the barn I’ve mounted a heat lamp. They can definitely avoid it, but they’ve made a pile of hay near the heat lamp and have created a cozy place for egg laying.
  • Oyster shell: I was offering oyster shell to my hens from the beginning, but I recently started putting the oyster shell into their crumble food. I don’t mix much in.  I think the recommended ratio is 1 lb oyster shell to 20 lbs of crumble.
  • Scraps: But I really think this is more about me than it is about the food.  They are much more comfortable with me coming in and out of their space when I bring them snacks.  Some of their favorites include veggies or noodles that the kids don’t finish, apples, leftover biscuits and dinner rolls.
  • Space to roam: I used to lock up my birds at night and let them have free range during the day.  Now that the youngins are locked up full time until they get a little bigger, my old birds are free ranging all the time.  The kinda like having the freedom to roost anywhere they want… in fact one of my gals enjoys the barn rafters.

I’m still new at this but based on my flock, happy chickens with the prospect of young love, warm nesting spaces, calcium supplements, tasty snacks, open spaces and high ceilings produce the most eggs.  This spring we hope to put build a chicken coop for them so they can have their own private space and get them out of the horse barn.  But hopefully we can keep them just as happy.  We should have 5 more egg layers by April 1 and we can’t wait to fill up all of our egg cartons!

I can’t wait to share some of my favorites egg recipes with you soon so stay tuned!

Happy Homesteading

Favorite Holiday Recipes

My friend and I have an annual holiday cookie/candy making get together. Sometimes we make the same recipes and often times we try some new things. My friend has a 5 year old and we’ve been doing it for 4 years so we’ve always done kid friendly recipes like chocolate covered pretzels and peanut clusters. 

Here’s what we made this year:

Chocolate covered pretzels – melt almond bark according to instructions on package. Dip pretzels and lay them out on wax paper. Sprinkle with Christmas sprinkles. 

Peanut clusters – melt chocolate flavored almond bark according to instructions on the package. Pour dry roasted peanuts into the almond bark. Use cookie dropper to drop onto wax paper. 

Sugar cookies – these are probably the best I’ve made. I was in a pinch for time and was looking for a recipe that didn’t require the dough to chill. 

Sugar cookie icing – I usually just make my own with a stick of butter, about 2 cups of powdered sugar, a 1/2 tsp of vanilla, and a splash of milk until the texture is right. Usually no more than a couple tablespoons of milk. 

Chocolate chip cookies – we use the standard toll house recipe at our house. 

Peanut butter fudge -this is a deliciously silky fudge and super easy. I’ve made it so many times and never had a failed batch. 

Here’s what is on my list in the near future:

I’m looking forward to having 4 extra hands next December…. although wrangling two year old twins in the kitchen might be more fun than I can take on. Dad has a whole year to build my kitchen helper stands

Happy Homesteading

Chocolate chip peanut butter cookies 

Well, happy New Year! It has only taken me 8 days to publish my first blog of 2018. And while many of you may have resolutions to eat healthier… I’m still stuck on the delicious cookies I made 2 weeks ago. So for those of you who are avoiding cookies, check out the recipe below for protein balls and save this blog post to your Pinterest recipe board and come back to the cookie recipe in a few months! Haha!

For those of you that aren’t in the Kansas City area, HyVee is a grocery store chain. We had some HyVee brand mini-chocolate chips. They were originally intended for no-bake oatmeal protein balls – but the cookies won. We had a Christmas party to go to and I was assigned to bring a sweet treat. I ended up following the recipe on the bag of mini-chips and OMG they were so delicious. And they just happen to be the most beautiful and uniform cookies I’ve ever made! They were worthy of a share.

Here’s the recipe:


1 c.  unsalted butter, softened

¾ c. granulated sugar

¾ c. packed light brown sugar

½ c. creamy peanut butter

2  large eggs

1 tsp. vanilla

2 ¼ c. flour

½ tsp. salt

1 tsp. baking soda

1 (12 oz) pkg mini semi-sweet chocolate chips

1 c. honey roasted peanuts


Preheat oven to 350 degrees.


Cream butter, granulated sugar and brown sugar with a electric mixer.


Add peanut butter and mix well.


Beat in eggs and vanilla.


Combine flour, salt and baking soda. Gradually stir into sugar mixture.


Stir in chocolate chips and peanuts.


Drop by tablespoons onto greased baking sheet.


Bake for 11 to 12 minutes.


Let cookies stand on baking sheet 2 to 3 minutes before removing to a wire rack to cool.
Since I rarely follow a recipe, I thought I’d list the changes I made. I didn’t use the honey roasted peanuts, I didn’t grease our cookie sheets and I added a bit more flour than the recipe called for… I probably used 2 1/2 cups of flour.

Fearless Faith, Mission Motherhood, Uncategorized


WOW.  Putting aside time to write has felt near impossible these past few months.  Between the baby being a baby and the two-year-old being a two-year-old and the seven-year-old actually being very helpful and the dogs and the kitten and my husband also having interests, along with a job to support our not-so-tiny family…when is there time for me to sit at the computer and get my thoughts out?  If I don’t have time to clean the bathrooms, do the dishes, get caught up on laundry, vacuum, or any of the other “housewifey” things that I feel like should be simple tasks to complete– how can I justify spending 45 minutes in front of the computer?  I’d be the first to tell another busy mom (or dad, for that matter) that self-care is not selfish…but when taking my own advice, I obviously struggle.

IT’S A NEW YEAR, FRIENDS!!  Can you believe it!?  2018? 

Like most of everyone, I’d assume, I did some careful reflection over my 2017.  I had a friend suggest to write things that I wanted to thank God for…and, in the midst of a heavy year, I found so many things that were more than worthy of praise.  –In this activity, I had to quickly realize that acknowledging that I’m grateful for events while mourning the death of a loved one does not negate the pain I still feel.  To me, after a few deep breaths, it felt like an unnatural but necessary part of grieving that I likely wouldn’t have taken the time to do had this friend not literally handed me pencil and paper as she posed this question.  Following the question about thanksgiving, she asked: “What in your life needs to die for new growth to emerge?”  …These two questions churned hard in my heart.  For what do I need to give thanks and what do I need to bury to start fresh?  Christians likely think of Jesus’s suffering on the cross, being buried, and raised again to life so that we, too, can have everlasting life.  Atheists, agnostics, and individuals of other religions or beliefs might have an easier time thinking of a tree.  (This was the analogy that I immediately thought of, honestly.)  I’m not even sure if this analogy is true or backed by science, but I heard one time years ago that a tree lets go of its leaves not because they’re unneeded during the fall and winter months, but because their branches would be too heavy to support the weight of the leaves in addition to the ice or snow that often falls during the colder months.  In order for the tree to bear the weight of the snow, it must let go of the leaves grown in the previous season.  It’s because of this defense that the tree keeps its branches and is allowed to produce new leaves and new life each year.

“What in your life needs to die for new growth to emerge?”  

For me, the answer wasn’t one that I wanted to hear…but it was an immediate lump in my throat and I knew that I had to put pen to paper: ego, pride, self-reliance, and comparison.  Between Pinterest and Facebook and Instagram and Snapchat and self-help sections and DIY projects, it is so easy to find myself buried in a pile of “oh-my-God-how-am-I-ever-supposed-to-get-all-of-this-done-in-15-minutes-and-the-veggies-are-burning-and-why-is-there-snot-all-over-your-face-son?”  And, instead of asking for help, I’ll look on Pinterest to find ways to make my one person become so efficient that I’m able to complete the tasks of several while still caring for my children and modeling for them the values that I want so badly so soften their hearts in a world that suggests toughening up.  Why do I look on Pinterest?  Why do I ask for recommendations on Facebook about organization and quick meals?  Why do I think I should do it all and why do I think I have to EARN a break by completing everything?  In teaching, I know that students perform better if they’re given frequent breaks.  Why would I think it would be any different as an adult?  I also tell my children regularly, “Do not yell at me.  Do not whine.  If you need help, all you need to do is use your words and ask.  I’d be happy to help.”  I was on the phone with my mom a little over a week ago, and she said, “Dani, why don’t you ask me to help you?  I’d be glad to come watch the kids for a while.  You just need to tell me when you need me.”  My mother in law, aunts, grandma, friends, neighbors, etc. have all said the same thing.  Why is it so hard to ask for help?  Ego.  Pride.  Self-reliance.  “I got it.”  “I can do it.”  Or the worst of all: COMPARISON.  “But I saw on Facebook– SHE has kids…THEY goes on vacations…HER house is clean…HER meals are perfect…THEIR bodies are flawless…SHE is a better mom/wife/Christian/daughter/friend/person than me…THEY ARE BETTER.”  I know I’m not the only one who does this.  Right?  Right.

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt

For the past several years, I’ve chosen a word to focus on through the upcoming year.   Each year I’ve experienced transformation.  The first year, my word was “INTENTION.”  Year two: “IDENTITY.”  Last year: “PEACE.”  This year: “JOY.”

In the previous years, I’ve mediated and prayed about my word because I wanted to pick the perfect word for the most drastic spiritual transformation.  This year, I didn’t do anything to receive my word.  –I have not been able to get away from my word for MONTHS.  It literally keeps showing up everywhere.  I know, you’re probably thinking, “Well, Christmas was just here…and ‘JOY to the World’ and JOY-this and JOY-that…”  But it’s been more than just the typical Christmastime sightings.  And it started prior to Christmastime festivities.  So my focal word for 2018 is JOY.  As a noun, it’s great…of course: “a feeling of happiness”–but as a verb…that’s truly where I’m going to place my focus: “rejoice.”  Can you imagine how much less stressed and resentful I would feel if I would stop comparing my dirty dishes to yours or hers or his or theirs…and instead took a minute to rejoice?  It sounds hokey.  But I’m going to try it, because it can’t hurt.  I’m going to rejoice in the dishes that show my family has eaten today…Rejoice in the laundry that shows my family has plenty of weather appropriate clothing…Rejoice in the aching shoulders and arms that show my children feel comforted in my care….Rejoice in the many friends and family who offer to help and say YES because self-care is not selfish.  Rejoice in the knowledge that I’m not so important that another person can’t watch my kids or load the dishwasher or fold the laundry…Rejoice in the recognition of some control issues and the ability to ask for help instead of drowning because I refuse to let go of the idea that I can complete everything on my own.  Rejoice in letting the dead leaves fall to the ground (ego, pride, self-reliance, comparison) in order for fresh leaves and new life to emerge (JOY).




joyDo you have a word for 2018?  If you haven’t yet chosen one, I encourage you to choose a word that resonates with your soul.  Choose a word that encourages growth and demands action, but is gentle enough to tuck away at night and allow you to sleep
peacefully.  If you have already chosen a word, I’d love for you to comment with your word.  No explanations.  Just the word.  I believe in support…I believe in the power of prayer…and I believe that the simplicity of a single word can be extraordinarily impactful.

Until I get the chance to write again, from my heart to yours, Happy New Year!